Trauma-Informed Therapy – Healing the Pain That Never Had a Name

The Wounds That Don’t Look Like Wounds

When people think of trauma, they often imagine a dramatic, life-altering event—a violent assault, a natural disaster, a terrifying accident. And while those experiences can certainly shape us, trauma isn’t always about what happened in one moment. Sometimes, it’s the slow, invisible erosion of the self. A thousand little cuts.

Trauma-informed therapy is about understanding the impact of not being loved, accepted, or cherished in the ways we needed—especially in our earliest, most formative years. It’s the subtle but powerful effect of being ignored, criticised, controlled, or emotionally abandoned. Of growing up in an environment where your feelings were too much, or not enough. Where you had to adapt, shrink, or harden just to belong.

This kind of pain doesn’t leave visible scars. But it shapes how we see ourselves, how we show up in relationships, and how we handle stress, closeness, and even joy. And just like capital-T trauma, these experiences deserve care and repair.

Not a Technique—A Way of Relating

Trauma-informed therapy isn’t a method or a set of tools. It’s a way of being with another person. In our work together, it means I will never ask you to go faster than you’re ready to. I will never demand disclosure. I will never pathologise your coping strategies.

Instead, we’ll build something safe enough for the parts of you that have learned not to trust. A space where you don’t have to perform insight, or wellness, or emotional strength. A space where you can slowly come home to yourself.

The Nervous System Remembers

Even when the story isn’t clear—or when there is no one event to point to—the body holds the memory of what it didn’t receive. A sense of tightness when you get close to someone. A tendency to freeze under stress. A belief, deep in the bones, that your needs are a burden.

We work gently with the nervous system, beginning to notice and tend to these patterns. This might involve learning to feel safe in the presence of another person. It might mean allowing emotion to surface that’s long been buried. Or simply learning to recognise what your body is asking for, without overriding it.

A Space for All Parts of You

Trauma-informed therapy makes room for contradiction. You may feel deeply vulnerable and fiercely self-reliant. You may long for closeness and fear it at the same time. You may want to speak—and want to disappear. None of this is wrong.

In our sessions, all of you is welcome. Even the parts you’ve hidden, hated, or tried to get rid of. Especially those parts.

It Could Be a Thousand Little Cuts—Or Just One

Sometimes, it really was a single traumatic event. A moment that changed everything. That, too, can be held in this work. But what makes therapy trauma-informed isn’t the kind of trauma—it’s the way we approach it. With deep respect. With attunement. With the willingness to stay.

If you’ve lived a life shaped by what you didn’t get—by the absence of love, safety, or attunement—I offer a space to begin feeling your way back. Not to who you were before, but to who you were always meant to be.