Self-Esteem – Reclaiming the Right to Take Up Space

It's Not About Confidence. It's About Worth.

Struggling with self-esteem isn’t always visible. You might be high-functioning, praised for your achievements, or the one others turn to for support. And yet beneath the surface, there may be a persistent doubt—that you’re not good enough, that you’re failing in some quiet way, that one day someone might see through the mask.

Low self-esteem doesn’t always look like insecurity. It can show up in overworking, people-pleasing, avoiding conflict, or chasing perfection. It’s less about how loud your inner critic is, and more about how deeply you’ve internalised the belief that your worth is conditional.

In our work together, we begin the slow, vital process of returning to yourself—not as someone who needs fixing, but as someone worthy of care, attention, and belonging exactly as you are.

Understanding Where It Began

None of us are born doubting ourselves. The belief that we’re not enough—too much, too sensitive, too needy, too flawed—develops in response to early environments. Sometimes these messages are spoken aloud. More often, they’re communicated through absence: emotional unavailability, conditional affection, unmet needs.

Together, we gently trace the roots of those beliefs. This is not to dwell in the past, but to begin to see how your sense of self was shaped—and how it might be reshaped.

The Inner Voice Is Not Always Yours

The harsh voice inside—the one that calls you lazy, unworthy, or a burden—often doesn’t originate from within. It echoes the voices of caregivers, teachers, past partners, or even a culture that ties value to appearance, productivity, or performance.

In therapy, we don’t try to silence that voice. We get to know it. We learn what it’s afraid of. And in time, we create space for a new voice—quieter at first, but more compassionate—to emerge.

From Shame to Self-Compassion

Shame is a powerful force. It keeps us small, hidden, disconnected. But when shame is met with empathy—when it’s spoken aloud and received without judgment—it begins to loosen its hold.

Our sessions create a container where you can bring the parts of yourself you’ve long kept hidden. The parts you feel are unlovable, embarrassing, or broken. These parts don’t need to be cut off. They need to be understood.

Self-Worth as a Felt Experience

Building self-esteem isn’t just about changing your thoughts. It’s about changing how you feel in your own skin. How you hold yourself in a room. How you relate to silence, failure, intimacy, and praise.

Through our relational work, you begin to experience what it’s like to be held in regard. Not for what you do, but for who you are. And in that experience, something internal begins to shift.

You Deserve to Belong to Yourself

You don’t need to perform confidence or fake ease. You don’t need to compare yourself to anyone else’s journey. You simply need a space where you can begin to see yourself with the same warmth and clarity you offer others.

If you’re tired of feeling small in your own life, I’m here to help you grow into a self-worth that doesn’t need proving—just remembering.