Adult ADHD Support – Beyond the Diagnosis, Toward Understanding

More Than Distracted

You may have spent years wondering why it’s so hard to focus, to finish things, to stay organised, to feel calm. You might have been called lazy, scattered, or unreliable—not just by others, but by yourself. Or perhaps you’ve only recently been diagnosed, and it’s helping things make sense. But diagnosis is only the beginning.

Living with ADHD as an adult often means living with shame. Shame about missed deadlines, forgotten appointments, emotional reactivity, or a lifetime of feeling “different.” But the traits that get labelled as dysfunction are often responses to a deeper reality—one that deserves care, not correction.

What If This Isn’t a Deficit?

Like Dr. Gabor Maté and others, I see ADHD not as a genetic disorder or hardwired flaw, but as a developmental response to stress—particularly early emotional stress. When a child grows up in an environment that is overstimulating, neglectful, chaotic, or emotionally unpredictable, the nervous system learns to fragment attention as a form of protection.

In this light, ADHD is not a malfunction—it’s a brilliant adaptation. One that helped you survive, but may now be interfering with the life you long to live.

Support That Goes Deeper

Rather than focusing on productivity tips or rigid strategies, I offer a relational space to explore how ADHD lives in you—not just as a list of symptoms, but as an emotional and embodied experience.

We look at the ways you’ve been shaped by your environment, by the labels you’ve carried, and by the systems that weren’t built for your brain. We also tend to what often gets overlooked: the grief, the anxiety, the loneliness of having tried so hard, for so long, without being met.

Emotional Dysregulation and Rejection Sensitivity

Many adults with ADHD struggle not just with attention, but with emotional regulation. You may find yourself flooded by feelings, reacting impulsively, or deeply hurt by criticism. These patterns aren’t moral failings—they’re nervous system responses.

In our sessions, we build emotional literacy and regulation from the inside out. No shaming. No pathologising. Just gentle exploration, and steady co-regulation.

Celebrating Strengths Without Ignoring Struggles

ADHD often comes with unique gifts: creativity, intuition, energy, humour, and deep empathy. But these can be hard to access when you’re in survival mode. Therapy becomes a space to reconnect with what’s strong in you—not through toxic positivity, but through genuine, grounded reflection.

We also explore practical ways to live more sustainably: not by becoming hyper-efficient, but by tuning into your own rhythms, your body’s needs, and the kinds of environments where you thrive.

A Different Kind of Attention

What clients with ADHD often need most is a different kind of attention—not one they have to earn, but one they can rest into. Our relationship becomes a safe place to be seen fully, without performance or apology.

If you’re ready to move beyond the shame story and begin understanding your ADHD in a way that honours your whole self, I’m here to support you.